Hope and Despair

Hope and Despair


Looking for Love

This seems to be everyone’s main occupation is to find “THE ONE”. To the point of desperation and this is when the rot starts.  Once you are desperate the vibes go out and you attract all the wrong kind of people those you really would not want to know.  Life turns upside down and will it ever be normal again.  The wrong kind of people are often evil descent and they know how to tear the desperate person a part simple.

Money Maker

Clairvoyants coin in the dollars for readings on “Your Soul Mate” and lets throw in “Twin Flames” too.  These people know how to word things and talk it is just patter they know what the client wants to hear and spoon feed them with lies and false futures.  Though some can be honest but usually they will say I will tell you about your soul mate or you have a special relationship near you ah a twin flame and so on.

These people also feed off desperate people looking for soul mates.

Easy to get married hard to get divorced

This is the focus of many couples “we are in love” lets marry we can always divorce if it does not work out.  Not the grounds for marriage obvious no love in this type of relationship.

Joke is divorce is not easy it is all about power and money and very unpleasant in most cases.

The worst part is if there are children involved in this loveless marriage they end up in a middle of a fight nothing to do with them.

I am not married

I have given the job to Our Heavenly Father, if I am to marry again He will create the meetings to bring us together it will be obvious and the “Love” will be true.  Does not mean we would agree on everything but be compatible and have mutual interests. Desire to spend time together on adventures of our own.

Marriage Offers

I have had many marriage offers since living in Egypt and I refuse to marry an Egyptian their marriages on the greater part are loveless when I talk to people they have no understanding of love.  The men and women live separate lives so to speak.  They as a couple have no fun time or relaxation like I have been used to.  The men work or do nothing and hang about with their friends.  The women spend time with the women and often get into spats, this is natural when you spend too much time with the same people.  All they talk about is getting married it is their whole focus.  Such a boring outlook on life.  I switch off or walk away when conversations turn to marriage with me.

More to life

I have learned there is more to life than to be on the constant look out for a partner.  It is not important to get married this is a society thing nor is it important to have children.  Everyone is conditioned this is how life should be.  Amazing the number of single parents these days and still it holds a stigma would have thought society would have got used to the Single Parent Family Unit by now.

I learned being committed to our Heavenly Father and Mother Earth is more important than making the world more unsustainable.  I have to laugh at the new buzz word “Sustainable” where in the world is it sustainable the richer countries drain the poorer ones of resources with their fashionable eating and desires.  The poorer countries have too many children and cannot afford to feed, clothe and educate them.

Self Improvement

Focus should be on self-improvement learning to understand yourself, what you are about, the goodness within you and appreciate it before going hot foot looking for a partner and getting the wrong one because you did not know who you were in the first place.

Too many want shallow existences

You cannot build a marriage on selfish desires and materialistic values.  The Christian Marriage vows state for better or worse, richer or poorer which all intents and purposes means health and wealth.  These are the things you must look at before marriage.  If the partner of your choice will care for you when sick or jobs are lost.  These are the testing times where marriages break down.  These are the questions which have to be answered before marriage or ending in a divorce court.

Fortunate Partners

I do know couples who have a love filled marriage and they are lucky and blessed to have found this.  I refer to heterosexual and same sex marriages, it is clear to see these relationships flourishing in Soul Love.  They have families and raise healthy children.

I feel so happy to see these blossoming relationships gives me hope in life, but I should remain unmarried this is also good as it will be what Our Heavenly Father has planned.

Desperate and Greedy

Think properly before jumping into the fire being desperate or greedy is just that no love in it and will only gain pain.


Having faith in Our Heavenly Father in His wisdom your life will be as it should be, stay close to Him.

© 2019 Nanette de Ville – All Rights Reserved







8 thoughts on “Hope and Despair

  1. Anna Waldherr says:

    You make many perceptive observations here, Nanette. God loves those of us who are single and those married equally. He has, I think, unique ways of using the single. We generally have more time to devote to His service and the service of others than those w/ family commitments. ❤

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  2. heatherjo86 says:

    “You cannot build a marriage on selfish desires and materialistic values.” Amen!
    Great post! I believe more and more women are challenging the notion that we must get married and have children in order to be happy and fulfilled. I applaud you for taking a step back to find your own happiness away from a relationship. Jesus mentioned that singleness can be a gift (Matthew 19:10-12) and Paul stated singleness allows us to devote ourselves fully to God (1 Corinthians 7:6,7,32-35) which brings joy and fulfillment in itself. Keep on seeking first the Kingdom and all other things that you need will be provided.

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  3. Milly Schmidt says:

    These were really interesting snippets 🙂 Thanks for sharing. I especially liked the first one about humanity’s insane drive to find that “one person” who supposed to fill your life with joy forever. I got to the point where I wasn’t even looking (always keeping an eye out though!), and then along came my boyfriend haha.

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